敦敦嫌母丑
说是'子不嫌母丑'，可事实上，做了母亲 我才知道，爱美之心孩也有之，小男孩都希望自己的妈妈年轻 漂亮，敦敦爱妈妈的方式就很前卫和时尚，他常常提醒我要注 意仪表，这6- 7年来，他 在给他老妈洗心革面上下了不少的功 夫。
在香港那几年，我要管孩子，管保姆， 又要黑天白日地工作，压力之下的千头万绪，我最后想到的是 要打扮自己。为了给学生们应有的尊重，有课时我会捣哧一 番，人模狗样地去讲课，没有课时我宁愿一身 IT look。那时的工作， 在电脑前一坐就是一整天，穿得太正式了会很累，而且周身不 舒服。好在我们办公室里的同事们都不太讲究穿着。男的 T 衫，牛仔裤，女的胡乱穿条裙子算数。
有一天我赶着去开会，根本没留意到自 己穿得很随便，3岁的敦敦很专业 地打量我，'妈妈，您就穿着这身衣服去上班？'我低头看了看 镜子里的自己，这才意识到自己的寒碜相，赶紧奉命换装。在 得到儿子的认可后，方安心出门。
周末，去商场买衫或去发廊剪发时， 5-6 岁的敦敦责无旁待地充当我的'高级造型 师'兼'形象总监'，当他看到我在玛莎店里鲜艳的女装柜前停 留的太久时，他便会刻薄我两句，'妈妈，这件裤子的颜色不 适合您，您不想把自己打扮成一只穿红裤头的大象吧？'周围 的人听了这小人对妈妈几近尖酸的评论，都忍不住偷着乐。
更要命的是，敦敦的对我的要求还会不 断地升级，妈妈，您头发的颜色还不错，下一个目标是减体 重，减了体重，我再帮您挑合适的衣服。还有，您能不能把脸 上的斑处理一下呢？别忘了，应该去专业'美白'，显然他把昨 天在电视广告里看到的'术语'都用上了。
老公很理解岁月对女性的摧残，不到忍 无可忍，决不打击老婆的自尊。 可我有幸落到了 眼里揉不了沙子的敦敦手里，这孩儿火眼金睛，不依不饶，死 马要当活马医。孩子们都很在乎妈妈的形象，他们希望自己妈 妈的内在和外在都趋于完美。每当我看着镜子里自己的'光辉 形象'耳边自然地回响起敦敦的'殷切期望'。革命尚未成功， 老妈尚需努力，我争取用我这张番新的'旧船票'登上孩子心 中'美丽的客船'。
What is terrorism?
Terrorism is not something we normally think about defining. It is thrown at us in a certain context. A context which we just accept. But what if we are asked to question it? No one approves of terrorism. Terrorism is defined by the people on the other side, say the US Administration. We are currently waging "A War on Terror." Terror defined by us. Defined and in so many ways created by the government. I just heard a quote which made me really think. It went something like this: Why should terrorism be defined by 9/11?
Terrorism has been happening all over the world for so long, but when 9/11 came it meant something, not because the US is superior but because we are the most powerful nation. The reality is that it has been happening around the world on much greater levels than it was performed in the US.
Now let's look at what dictionary.com defined terrorism as...
1.
the use of violence and threats to intimidate or coerce, esp. for political purposes.
2.
the state of fear and submission produced by terrorism or terrorization.
3.
a terroristic method of governing or of resisting a government.
I want to examine the second definition. "The state of fear and submission produced by terrorism or terrorization." What does that mean? I was always told not to use the word in the definition.
Look at the third definition: "a terroristic method of governing or of resisting a government." So that is to say that a government cannot be partake in terrorism. What about a dictatorship or an authoritarian regime--or say a democratic one? If the government of any state is able to define terrorism as something that is against them, then it would seem we have a problem. This is a problem because if you put the power into the hand of one person and they cannot be questioned in some way or another it becomes oppression. Oppression is never responded to well, and it shouldn't be.
In the US media we are told day after day they there are terrorists in Iraq and throughout the Middle East. It has become a scare tactic for this administration to get the country to follow. I am aware that there are bad people out there, but we are not living in a black and white world. We are living in a vibrant, colorful world where the definition of right and wrong is indefinable by just one nation or one group of people. It is a world where context is everything. Right now, we are occupying Iraq. Many will disagree and even call me Anti-American for saying such a thing. Anyway, the thing is that the so-called terrorists who are blowing up things and killing people are not necessarily completely different than then our soldiers. I know that I am unaware of what it is like to be living in an occupied state. I am unaware of why these people are fighting against us. I do not know how I would react if someone walked into my house and started trying to control me. Now I know comparing an American solider to what our government has defined as a terrorist is beyond what I should be doing. But they are each fighting for a cause which they think is right (and in some cases the Iraqis may have a better idea of what they are fighting for).
I want to mention something about the military for just a second. There is this idea throughout the United States that we are supposed to support the troops regardless of how we feel about war. Now let me say that I admire what the military in an ideal way is meant to be: A group of people who are willing to put their lives on the line for you or me. That is amazing thing, but I am not a fan of war. I don't think it is necessary 99.9% of the time. We learn as children that we are not supposed to fight, we are supposed to learn to use our words to fix our problems, yet militaries are still a needed thing for most countries. Works shouldn't have to fail. I am not only critiquing the United States but the world. I respect the military for what they are willing to give up, but I think that it is silly for them to do so. There is so much they can do with their lives and bringing honor to killing is just not the way to go. It is unacceptable to kill, unless an individual is about to kill you and there is no other way to injure them in a nicer way which would allow you to get away. I am one of those people.
I was not able to stay for whole documentary because I had leave for work but what I saw of Arabs and Terrorism brought up this question. It was really interesting and I hope to get a hold of a copy to watch the rest of it. This is such a difficult to discuss this topic because it is one that is not questioned for the most part. It is controversial and a touchy subject for so many. But that is what makes it so important. Not every Arab is a terrorist and Americans can be terrorists.
Ok so get this....my ex right lol is only the best. one of his friends asked me out and i said no because i didnt like him and i dont want a boyfriend right now. but my ex's friend told my ex to make out with me in front of the guy that asked me out to piss him off. Of course that was my ex's friend so he didnt cuz that would be mean. But after his friend left we totally made out...lol it was kinda funny though becasue somehow his friend must have found out cuz now he is being a totaly jerk to me and im like what is his problem...but whatever my ex will stick up for me now!! lol
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