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shirleyxu
54, Female, China - 301 entries
21
Feb 2013
9:15 PM CST
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留守父母们的思考
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如果你把唯一的孩子小年龄送到海外留学,你就提前进入空巢期,变成留守爸妈,只身在外闯荡的少年和留在家里的父母都提前进入了一种新的磨练和挑战。
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如果说婚姻是场赌博,人生是场游戏,送低龄孩子留学寄宿学校也可以算一场全家的赌博兼游戏吧。
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孩子到了青春期,家长很难管教,尤其是当孩子体内荷尔蒙飙升,你自己体内荷尔蒙失控时,家庭里的几个大脑不和谐显得日趋尖锐。送寄宿学校是让孩子换个环境,在一个新的体系里重新调整自己,孩子们飙升的荷尔蒙在新的喜怒哀乐中得到释放,家长也从‘子不教父之过’的梦魇中摆脱出来,免得在跟孩子混战青春期战国时代后发现自己竟然提前进入衰老的清朝后期,西方一部分中产阶级上百年来都是这样做的,让精心养育了十几年的孩子离开自己是为了让自己和孩子都有重新独立的机会。
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寄宿学校不是玫瑰园也非游乐场,它是一个小社会小舞台,悲剧喜剧天天上演,留守父母们成了达人秀的后台观察员兼财务总监,不停的为台上的孩子的小成功喝彩,在孩子失败时的拍拍他们的肩膀,必要时给一个温柔的拥抱,陪他们哭上一场也不是不可以。
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人生道路漫长,会有几个关键的驿站,不妨把这段时光看作父母和孩子共同成长的精神驿站。孩子们跟父母的精神脐带变细甚至萎缩,但他们的独立神经变粗大,社交触角变得有灵敏性。后两者是他们安身立命之本。爸妈找回自我,有机会回跟老伴烧个更香的爱情回锅肉,由精神头来计划自己的精彩的后半场。
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感谢互联网,感谢视频,这些科技化留守父母的思念为幸福的亲子网上热聊。‘儿行千里母担忧’变成了‘儿行千里娘不愁’,不可思议的是这样有价值的东西居然还是免费的。钱不是万能的,父母在孩子身边也非万能。父母退一步,留给孩子一个充满机遇和挑战的海阔天空。
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shirleyxu
54, Female, China - 301 entries
21
Feb 2013
9:03 PM CST
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‘追求’的代价 乐肥秋语
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这长时间没写东西,俺乐肥也觉得真对不住粉丝们。
奶奶上班以后超忙,每天下班后全球电话会议,没完没了地讨论,
我是不理会议那边都是啥级别的人五人六,只要看到奶奶开始讲话,
我就在旁边大声喵喵地发言,以示抗议,
弄得奶奶只好讲完马上按静音,还把我关在门外,
这个家本来就是我在忠实地陪伴她,她对我这样,我真是伤透了心。�
每天本来属于我跟奶奶互动的美好时光都这样被这一个个可恶的电话
会给搅了,令我的烦恼是这种情况愈演愈烈,
昨天是从下午7点到晚上11点,奶奶从下班一进门就开始,
阿姨还要把饭菜和汤给奶奶端到书房,
俺爹和爷爷只能用肢体语言跟奶奶交流,免得打扰到,在我看来,
真有点离谱,哪来的那么多会议,
一定是这家大公司管理方面出了问题,他们老板应该找我咨询,
我们猫届对沟通(communication)是很有一套的。
首先我们会找正确的对象去沟通,俗话说好猫不跟狗斗;
其次我们在真正有需求的时候才发声,比如需要食物,
需要找对象时;再有,
我们会以不同的方式跟不同的对象沟通发布信息,
对于领土和主权问题,我们不发声音,洒几泡尿就长久地解决了,
比如在钓鱼岛问题上,中国猫上岛后在关键的地方尿上几泡尿,
日本猫就不会再找麻烦。这过程是理性的,不会太过纠结。�
按猫的年龄我算40多了,按人类的说法是奔5张去了。
我吃东西少了,也没以前那么活跃,重要的是我没啥追求了,
看着奶奶那么大年纪还假装有‘追求’我还真挺‘佩服’她,
她把花白的头发染成黑或黄,眼睛里时不时有缺乏睡眠造成的血丝。
我每天在她给我全身按摩时用温柔的眼神提醒她,
她这种追求的代价也太大了,影响到了我的生活质量,别的不讲,
她把以前每天给我梳毛两次的频率已经下降到有心情时才给梳,
对乐肥博克也有心无力了,害得我这长时间都没跟大家互动,
还有她周末很累早上起不来,
每周六日都是我跳上她的床走到她脸庞近处察看她有没有出啥健康状
况,我很爱奶奶,她几次都救了我的命,
但做她的猫孙子还真操心哪。�
不说这些负面的东西了,讲点正能量吧,俺爹暑假从美国回来了,
他那爱惜的眼神和热烈的拥抱把我那有点寂寞的小心脏融化了。
他这次回来时间不短令我倍感温馨,
俺爹美国留学一年身子骨明显的强壮了许多,
基本上有一个男人的体魄了。他比从前懂事,
他会从爷爷手里抢着提太爷爷的氧气瓶,
想法安慰疾病缠身的太爷爷和太奶奶,补习数学的时候也上心。�
俺爹为了让90岁的太爷爷提起精神,让太爷爷给自己定目标,
太爷爷去年冬天给爹爹制订了宏观目标:第一,学业,
在24岁左右拿到博士学位;第二,事业,
对于国家的贡献要跟钱学森一样,第三,家业,
完成给陈家传宗接代的使命,因为俺爹是陈家唯一的男孙。
今夏太爷爷给俺爹定下了更具体目标,
他用颤抖的笔写下了三个目标:第一是学业,要争取好成绩,
最好90分,不能低于80分。第二是身体,
要注意锻炼体魄和学业的平衡,
第三是不局限于学业还要抓紧时间在各方面发展自己的社交和爱好提
高综合素质。临走的那天,俺爹郑重地跟太爷爷保证“爷爷,
您给我订的目标我都记住了,我会努力去奋斗的”,
带着氧气的太爷爷,抬起头,
用期待的眼神长时间地注视自己的孙子。
俺爹把太爷爷给的目标复印好,放在行李里,
带着太爷爷的嘱托离开亲人们上了飞机,
开始他在美求学的第二年奋斗征程。任何追求都是有代价的,
奶奶没有哭,也没有送。但我知道她的内心感受,
晚上我紧紧地倚在她的身旁陪她看电视,此刻我才恍然大悟,
原来让她开心就是我的追求。
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shirleyxu
54, Female, China - 301 entries
21
Feb 2013
9:03 PM CST
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Amy Jean
33, Female, United Kingdom - 5 entries
20
Feb 2013
6:03 AM CET
A Mid-Life Crisis
"The first and greatest victory is to conquer yourself; to be conquered by yourself is of all things most shameful and vile." – Plato
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I suppose one of the reasons why so many people take a year abroad is to “find themselves”. We like to pretend that it is for academic reasons, but we’re not fooling anyone. Whether that be exposing your inner party Erasmus self, or finding an enlightened traveller of the world within you, there’s a lot to be accounted for in what, in proportion to our entire life, is such a small period of time.
One of the hardest things I had to accept when changing countries was that I would lose friends, and make new ones. That’s not to say that I didn’t want to make new friends; I just didn’t want to leave the old ones behind. Part of my Year Abroad will soon be a distant memory, yet I would have to revisit many of the hardships I faced at the beginning of the entire journey.
This feeling may well be recognisable for many people staying in one country, or even those at home. People come; people go. Those friends that can only stay for a term must take their next step, and so we all find ourselves in a position of isolation and friendlessness. So here we go again: getting to know a new city, understanding the language, making friends, finding a routine in life. I did it before, and I can do it again. Yet this time, I don’t want to.
It is my inner self who is telling me that “I don’t want to do this again”. That’s probably because it really is “effort”. But I cannot let my instinctive emotions control my thoughts. I may not want to make friends now, or study, but I cannot and will not be conquered by myself. My thoughts and being are separate: my thoughts can change, but I can never change who I am. It takes discipline and understanding of yourself to know that you will enjoy your new life and that you are capable of changing your own thoughts. After all, life is what you make it.
During my first two weeks in Zaragoza, I did not stay in the house. I did not go onto Skype every minute of the day, nor did I reject the thought of making new friends. I did not stay awake at night, wrestling with thoughts that I could not control. I accepted that my life has changed and I have moved on. Those moments of weakness, where I missed home and friends, I accepted that. It’s normal to feel alone. There have been times where I have wanted to go out and buy new clothing, eat a mountain of chocolate and feel sick and sad inside. I will not give into these insecurities.
In those moments when I feel capable of controlling my emotions, I feel very proud of myself. It takes a lot of discipline, but it builds character. One thing my Dad said to me was that good and bad things come in threes. But then, when you think about it, all good and bad is subjected to your own thoughts. The more we can control our thoughts, the more we can conquer ourselves.
Sick stuff, Plato.
I know. I’m way too cheesy to be writing a blog.�
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Browneyedbomb
67, Female, Texas, USA - 11 entries
19
Feb 2013
10:15 AM
The deepest sorrow
Life Is one hurricane after another. Of all the sorrows I've known, the deepest is this sorrow...missing someone I love with all my heart & soul not knowing if they are alright or if I'll ever see them again. This is eating away at my very soul.
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MelFallen
50, Female, Minnesota, USA - 8 entries
14
Feb 2013
9:56 AM CST
Moving On!
I have a lot of worries about moving closer to work. I don't really want to raise children downtown. Has anyone had any experience with this?
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Sam3251010
46, Female, Minnesota, USA - 14 entries
13
Feb 2013
6:35 AM CST
Time for a new roof
Just can't seem to catch a break with the home improvement projects.
I just had
All American Exteriors
out at my house for a free estimate and they said it needs to be repaired this season and he was surprised the roof has lasted so long without leaking, and its only a matter of time. So far I've gotten an estimate from them and another local guy but he mostly does siding. I'm wondering if I should consider a new roofing material other than shingles. Because I really like the look of clay tiles, but I just might not have the right climate for that here in Minnesota or the budget for that matter!
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Sam3251010
46, Female, Minnesota, USA - 14 entries
06
Feb 2013
7:20 PM CST
Need pool side landscaping ideas
I have a pool that was built about a year ago by an
Eden Prairie pool contractor
. I am really happy with the work they did but now I just need to do my own finishing touches with the landscaping. Now that spring is just around the corner I need to find some hearty plants, ones that can outlive the splashes of chlorine. My mother suggested hostas, but I'm looking for something with a bit more color. Any ideas of colorful bushes or shrubs that I can add to the backyard landscaping? All suggestions are welcome, and Thanks in advance!
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Naobi
27, Female, Virginia, USA - 7 entries
04
Feb 2013
2:20 PM EST
Unfinished Love Note
�� �I love you is only three words and eight letters, it doesn't even begin to explain how i feel about you. I've known you for so long, and i care about you so much, that your basically a part of me. There's no way i could stop loving you. My parents aren't fond of the ways you have and the person you are.I'm not here to make them happy. I love my parents both to an eternity of life, they taught me things to look out for and what to look into when i start getting serious about a man. They've skilled me well. You are not what they portray you to be. You are me You are my life, You are my love. No one and nothing will change that. I will love you til the day you decide me to no longer.
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CarrieEyre
47, Female, Washington, USA - 12 entries
02
Feb 2013
9:05 AM
Hmmm.... well I assume that quote is what they're encouraging us to write about, but I must say that I have nothing to say about that saying. It really means nothing to me. As a matter the book the Little Prince is very shallow to me. Russ and I are going to Alex's farewell sacrament meeting speech in May, so that should be fun! There's a GORGEOUS bed and breakfast that would be perfect for us. I called this morning and the owner was having problems with his computer and he said he'd call me RIGHT back. Well, it's been hours and hours. SHUCKS!
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