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一元一次方程

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� 本学期分到数学高班的敦敦面临一元一次方程的挑战. 一元一次方程是中学数学的基础, 比较抽象, 敦敦在没能完全理解程序的逻辑时, 有些思维抗拒.� 我告诉他, 现阶段不用完全理解, 跟程序走就可以了, 就像你学骑自行车的阶段, 并不用急着搞清楚自行车的原理. 我 花了2小时帮他一起总结规律. 口干舌燥之际, 真觉得人生就是求解一元一次方程.

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� 第一步, 去分母, 人的成长要脱离父母的呵护; 第二步, 去括号, 人总要走出校园, 迈向社会. 第三步, 移项, 人为了生存要移动并调整方向, 第四部, 合并同类项, 到一定时候, 人可以考虑找个伴结婚或至少有一班朋友混在一起. 最后一步，系数化一, 到人生尽头时, 所有的头衔都没太大意义, 最终会落下一个真实的自我.

Baby i am so cold� spread your angel wingsand let me come inside sorry for being so bold,but there are so many things i can no longer hide�i�need your body warm and strong feel you and your skin to skin hear the unchain melody of our lovers song the divine overture of sin make love to me all through the night fill me with all of you honey don't you see i am burning up inside do you feel the same way too.

Wooden Ear

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香港社会的高效率在全球是没有对手的. 星期六，一个上午我和敦敦乘地铁在新界港岛穿梭几趟, 三个小时之内把该办的事就都办了. 前些年在香港居住的时候，习惯了享受高效率的生活。现在以旁观者的眼光看，从政府公务员，旅行社职员到银行经理们都有两个共同的特点：表达准确，动作准确。目的是在最短的时间里做最多的事情。‘准确’也许是香港社会的真金。

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敦敦请求在著名的波鞋街给自己挑一双新款的鞋子。看着他小人热天里跟我跑了一天街的份上，我同意赞助。好不容易找到中意的牌子，小东西居然跟他老妈犯一个毛病，迫不及待地新鞋上脚，旧鞋装盒。迅速完成吐故纳新的过程。我就常让店员把毛衣的标签剪掉，把刚买的毛衣穿在身上离开。我管这种做法叫‘掌控力自我满足的最大化’。搞社会心理研究的都知道，掌控力（control）是人心理健康的一个维度，大部分女人，班上掌控力有限，商场里掌控力无穷，女人们会在菜场和超市不失时机地把在办公室失掉的掌控力找回来。男人在这方面能力差一些，所以比女人更容易闹高血压的毛病。

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傍晚, 我跟敦敦带着高效率的成就感走进旺角一间云南米线铺头. 米线的质感和小菜的味道都不错. 敦敦阅读菜单时惊喜地发现, ‘木耳’被直翻成 ‘wooden ear’，为了经营好自己的生意，铺头老板真是创意无限，好赖也是英文菜谱，形象，达意也准确。虽然好笑，但从食文化的角度来看，木耳翻成‘wooden ear’ 比翻成‘fungus’ 不知要好多少倍。

乐肥的假期

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� 上个周末, 乐肥第一次体验在朋友家留宿, 换了另一个家, 乐肥表示不理解, 绝食一天, 第二天的下午, 饥肠辘辘的乐肥不得不为两把猫粮折腰, 它懂得留得青山在的道理, 它没忘记自己曾是一个社交高手, 在新形势下它很快调整了自己的生存策略, 为讨好女主人, 从 ‘蹭裤脚功’ , ‘贴身紧跟法’ 到 ‘倒地撒娇功’ 该用的招它都用上了, 它连喵喵声都变得更加温柔了, 在短短一两天内它就跟朋友家的大人孩子混熟了. 其适应环境的技巧驾轻就熟, 调整心态的能力炉火纯青. 我为它的卓越表现骄傲和自豪.

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�� 雷曼兄弟倒闭引致全球性的金融危机, 给很多高级白领未来的生活带来了很大的不确定性. 我奉劝兄弟姐妹们都应该学我家乐肥的这两招, 了解自己的长处, 调整好心态, 留得青山在, 不怕没柴烧.

I love Fridays, always have. I remember when I was a kid and mom and dad were still married, she'd be different on Fridays, there was anticipation in the air all day. She'd be busy doing things making the house clean, washing the cloths and not so impatient with us. She'd fix something light for dinner, I remember it was bacon and eggs alot of the times, I liked that (no yuckie veggie!). And almost always someone would come over to visit on Friday nights. Usuallly it was an Aunt & Uncle but sometimes it was just�a neighbor. When the weather was good my dad loved having the garage door open and hang out in front of the house. This was fun because it meant that us kids got to play out until way past bedtime. I remember once seeing my dad spray lighter fluid on a potato bug then set it on fire, the men all laughed and cheered as it ran. I was scared but somehow facinated to see that little ball of flame moving so fast.

Boy, that was such a long time ago. I know that was me but times are sooo different now. So much water under that bridge. Mom is gone and dad has a new garage to hang out in.

But Fridays are mine to make of them as I wish! Today, Bear's off so we're going for a walk this morning and then I want to cut his hair - he'll look so cute when I'm done with him. Then I don't know what we'll make ourselves busy with. At 5 is the baby's football game at the high school, it's going to be a beautiful afternoon so I won't mind sitting out on the bleachers till dark. I only wish I understood the game a little.

Sidenote: I helped Pam update her wardrobe yesterday. She's lost almost 30lbs! half her cloths don't fit anymore, we were crackin up so much. I called her droopie-drawers.

�I called Walt this morning to tell him that I was bored in addition to missing him. Then I said� the boredom I can handle. Daymon called me this morning wanting to go out., tried to stall him by saying I had to prepare myself.� Ruthie suggested I use the excuse my daughter is sick, which� I did recently.. Truth of the matter is wasnt feeling it, told ruthie several time that I didnt want to go out with him. I had a bad feeling that I couldnt escape. Sure 'nough my� intution was right, when I came out the door Walt was on the other side of the street , face to face. OMFG I ran upstairs so fast, the phone rang it was walt. He asked wasdaymon my date..... Were not official, but I still felt like I was cheating.�Such an uncomfortable sitiuation, felt like a deer� caught in headlights. Daymon wasnt fazed� at all , he says he knew I had friends. I think he� wasnt bothered because he is seeking a sex partner versus a lasting relationship. When we returned from starbucks I called Walt immediatley, I asked was he upset . He said he wasnt, this was� a lie. We talked briefly about it, then back to work he went. Later he called me back and asked was his job a problem for me. Cant recall what I said. His job is the "other woman". This is who Iam at this very moment a liar. I lied to walt ,lied to daymon as well as myself. I�lied to myself when I attempted to overide my feelings and be casual friends with walt; mislead daymon into thinking walt is a mere friend. Never once did I correct him! Lastly I decieved walt into thinking I dont care for him as deeply as I�do.�

This isnt a game for me,not gloating over the attention bestowed on me by both men. Truthfully speaking with walt is where I'd like to be in his arms in his prescence doing nothing in particular. God I want to fall in love,want his attention.� I feel like his unhealthy work ethics are an issue that cant be resolved. I love a B.M.W always wanted one yet somehow its become the elephant in the room. What am� I suppose to do when he is unavailable? Not seek out other men for sure, seriously what am I� to do? I need to get a life that's the answer, fill my time and space with�hobbies, work,��my first love(poetry). Anything to help eleviate the lonliness/ desire to be with� a man who cant or wont allocate time to me.

oh my.. it's getting on my nerves! now my exboyfriend is getting closer to me.

he kept on teasing me and having fun with me. he even joined us during our lunch time just like before.

ohhh... but still im not sure of what he's thinking, it was just a few days after a disaster came to the two of them and yet something's happening today..

whatta... my my my.. i dont know what to think about..

maybe..i'll just get on my everyday life.. friends with everyone[??].. that's it for now..

no[] boys until i'm super ready though i really want one,,

September 22, 2008

Something I have found interesting since I moved to NC is the way they serve beverages at restaurants here.� You certainly never go thirsty.� They are continually bringing you something to drink.� Usually they don’t just refill your glass they will bring you another beverage before you have finished the one you have.� I have never had to ask for a refill at a restaurant.� It is also common place to ask for a drink to go.� Sometimes you don’t even have to ask.� Yesterday when I was out for breakfast, the waitress brought a cup of coffee to go with my check.� They will give everyone a soda or tea in a to go cup!� I would be curious to know from Renee if fountain soda drink sales are much higher in the south than in the north?!?