auxilary25's Journal

Parents = crazy when u start a new relationship. When I met my bf all he did was talk wonderfully about his family and the great relationship he had with his brother and mother. When I met them I instantly liked them and feltg 100% comfortable...but as time has passed I've been noticing or picking up a weird vibe from his mom towards our relationship. I feel that she doesn't believe that this relationship is anything serious and that marriage is far from our horizon. This is because his father the other day made a comment about us getting married and she got serious and shot him a look like saying "don't give them any ideas or I'll kill u" and also when we were chatting a few weeks back she said "who ever u marry will..." and that shocked me because she didn't acknowledge that there is a possibility that I will be marrying her son.

When I told my bf this is admitted to me that she's been complaining too much about the amount of time that we spend together. That how come everytime he goes to visit her it's with me...that everyone he goes I'm with him...and he's REALLY upset with her. He loves me and he's already told his mom that he's going to marry me but she isn't taking him seriously. We aren't doing rings right now because we are in our finaly year of college and we are on a budget but once we graduate and get our job we are buying the ring and moving getting everything moving. I don't understand what this lady has against me...I've helped her son in SOO many ways...he was expelleged from the university and I got him readmitted...I push him to study, helped him decide on a major, get his gpa up, excell in his classes, quit smoking, exercise, take treatments to cleanse his lungs, start paying off his debt, quit his over demanding job that he was unhappy with and go to school fulltime...Why can't she see all the positive things that our relationship has brought upon him?

Just a few weeks back she kept insisting that we take his cousin that was visiting to a club even after he told her that he and I are more serious couple that he doesn't want to take me to a sleezy club he wants to respect me. She said "u used to go clubbing before now that u're in love u can't go" and his response was "I already found what I'm looking 4 and I don't need 2 search @ the club we are better than that"...like why doesn't she get it? We are inlove with eachother..his father sees it why can't she? She's always telling him "are u stressed look @ ur face" trying to insinuate that our relationship is causing him stress and that's why he looks "tired"...I'm even the 1st girl he takes home on a regular basis..the girl he took b4 me he took once to fuck her but his mom made them leave...so I'm really the only girl his family has had a constant interaction with...what's her deal? I'm not hoochie..I'm preppy..I dress good..nails are always manicured..hair is always groomed...I'm always studying with him...never swear...what's her deal?? My bf says it's because now that he has me he doesn't turn to her for guidance anymore and that has made her upset and jealous because I fully complete him. This relationship doesn't have problems so he never has asked her for advice like he did with his exes. When he wanted to quit his job, geta student loan, or change his major he came to me and I helped him do it all...he never consulted her once and that makes her envious of me...idk..how could a mom be like that to her sons gf? Specially when he's declared he's going to marry her after graduation...